We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ so often at this time of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, and the individuals to whom we say it.
Many of us are unique individuals with our very own unique needs and desires; and the majority of us are united within our quest for the very same thing – to feel Happy New Year. Many of us are striving for this state of ‘happiness’; but many people are looking within the wrong place for it – and settling for a temporary mood-enhancer as alcohol, drugs, a whole new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are packed with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – most of that is just plain common sense! No one else is the expert for you! Only you know – or want to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is yet another person’s burden.
Should you now take into consideration what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to owning a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right right through to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as is noticed in general society.
Happiness for you personally will depend upon your personal degree of personal and spiritual awareness, as well as your ability to create happiness as a state of mind that you simply can go back to at will – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is not enough to easily ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself as being happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What most of us don’t realise is the fact we have two mind-sets about everything in life, and these two minds can attend odds with one another. This conflict can include the amounts of happiness our company is ‘allowed’ to experience.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t think that we deserve it, or that people would reap the benefits of it – then it just isn’t going to come our way. Our outer lives are merely ever a reflection in our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies usually do not access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the opposite. This is known as ‘Emotional Contagion’ – which is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves give out that subsequently affects those around us.
We have neurons in our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion that we are witnessing away from us. For example if we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we have been instinctively developed to feel something similar. This connection goes beyond mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of comparable things having happened to us in the past. We are significantly afflicted with being around Merry Christmas 2019, whose emotions we then ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by a ‘happy mask’ that somebody may be wearing; that will be a false-self they present around the world as being an attempt to hide their real feelings and desires. This may well have already been set up in childhood if it was encouraged and expected that they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for that family’s sake; and to stuff down their real feelings such as anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – which was real, but ‘unacceptable’ from the family/care-giver.
Many people are so accustomed to wearing a mask which they cannot imagine a life without it, or how to take them back! Their eyes will often offer the game away regarding their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if another person is sensitive enough to notice these ‘slips’.
All of us have a ‘base-line’ amount of happiness at any given stage inside our lives – which can be formed from your past experiences and also the meaning we gave for them; not to mention the consequences these have had upon our sub-conscious mind and the ‘program’ our company is running.
This base-line represents only 40% from the full level of happiness we are capable of experiencing in the present time. A further 10% can come from the external ‘lucky’ events like the lottery win; or perhaps a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary and that we soon go back to our base level once more.
The very fantastic news though is that the remaining 40% of happiness accessible to you – is derived from YOU! This really is scientifically validated and forms a central part of Positive Psychology.
There are 12 means of facilitating more happiness from your own actions and thoughts, and through the releasing your personal blockages. A few of these ways include finding out how to establish a more optimistic and focused method of life; to keep up your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness to you. These sound simple but in fact are profound and life-changing. Improving your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell inside your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and therefore your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to some calmness in the mind… observing what exactly is, and not forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; rather than worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To view the Happy New Year 2020 Images in every single tiny moment as opposed to only focusing ahead of the present time; or dwelling in the unchangeable past. The only real time you actually have is that this moment and also the next breath. Make the most of these whilst you still have them.